“If you could do anything at all, and money was no object, what would you do tomorrow?” My young friend, Jonathan was pushing at my boundaries again.
“I want to board a rocket and live on the International Space Station for awhile. But I’m afraid that my health wouldn’t allow for it.”
He looked at me quizzically, “If money was no object, wouldn’t you take care of what is making you unhealthy?”
“So your answer is that you’d have to start a process.”
“Yes, if money was no object, I’d begin going down a path.”
My friend’s mini-interrogation had revealed my pie in the sky daydream of Space flight in the ISS. I wonder how many thousands of people share this dream. In the end, it’s the old possible and probable conundrum.
“When you have no fear, the possibilities are endless.”–Jeffree Star
We tend to be secretive about our dreams and inspirations. We are concerned that somebody might steal our ideas and beat us to success. Often we’re afraid we’ll fail and we’ll have to atone for our high and mighty schemes.
On the other hand, we might keep our dreams a secret in order to develop them further, away from the expectations of others. We’re not certain whether acquaintances may pooh pooh the ideas or enthusiastically support them. We may wish to wait until we’ve succeeded with prototypes before we reveal them to our acquaintances and the world.
There is always the chance that if you toot your own horn prematurely that you won’t work diligently on developing the idea. Too often, if we talk about grand schemes, they don’t get done, because psychologically we feel like the plans have already come to fruition. I’ve fallen for that temptation more frequently than I care to admit.
Another factor is prioritizing. I fantasized about Space travel long before the ISS was constructed. Like many, many other people, that dream was launched when Apollo Eleven enabled two humans to walk on the Moon. Perhaps other people read sci-fi stories or watch popular Space-themed movies and are inspired by them. We might have the dream, but our priorities are elsewhere. We go about practical matters like making a living and supporting ourselves and families. Perhaps the dream about Space travel has a lower rank on our list of priorities than other dreams that more fully engage our hearts and souls.
More often than not, we hold back on our personal possibilities because we fear loss and humiliation. What if we fail? What if we discourage ourselves by saying we’re only dreaming? A better set of questions might be: What have I got to lose? Isn’t it better to try and fail than never try and regret not trying for the rest of your life? What if the idea doesn’t fail? What if it succeeds? Is fear getting in the way of at least trying?
There are a lot of possibilities in the world. Are we overly dreamy about our schemes or are we willing to put in the mental and physical effort to discover whether or not our dreams can be realized? This is the thrust of a lot of self-help literature and coaching programs, because it’s an ages old quandary.
What is possible and is it probable?
The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes Explorer-in-Residence at the National Geographic Society, Wade Davis. “All cultures through all time have constantly been engaged in a dance with new possibilities for life. Change is the one constant in human history.”