Installing the three Venetian blinds inside the many decades old window frames was taking much longer than it should have. I was following the printed instruction sheet to the letter, yet what should have taken only a few minutes was stretching into an half-an-hour-long ordeal. I was drilling the second to the last hole for the final bracket when the drill bit snapped off–flush with the wood.
I let out a loud scream of frustration and an F-bomb.
I glanced out through the window glass to see if anyone had heard me yell. My neighbor, Austin, must have heard the scream because he looked directly at me. I grinned from embarrassment and pointed at the electric drill. He laughed, then got into his car and drove away.
It seems like simple, but infrequent tasks cause me to feel frustrated. The blinds installation is a prime example. I hadn’t installed blinds or shades on windows for at least a dozen years or so. Then it was when I installed a pair of pleated shades in the dining area of the kitchen. The brackets were incompatible with the window frames, so I had to jerry-rig some adapters from some old vinyl mini-blinds. The solution worked, but only after a lot of tweaking. I don’t recall screaming, but I do remember being frustrated with the chore.
“This society is driven by neurotic speed and force accelerated by greed and frustration of not being able to live up to the image of men and woman we have created for ourselves; the image has nothing to do with the reality of people.”–Yoko Ono
Frustration can show up in inter-personal relationships. Thankfully, extreme frustration about my boyfriend’s behavior and habits rarely happens. I’ve only had to repress a few screams about him. Meantime, I’m sure I’ve done plenty of things that displeases him. I wonder how many screams he has held back. Relationships with others are often based on some sort of psychological dependence. We might feel possessive or fearful because of the dependence. This might manifest as friction and frustration.
When frustration grows intense, I take a time-out, usually outdoors. The change in environment helps cool my heels and reassess the reasons for my frustration. Thankfully, intense frustration with BF very rarely occurs because we are able to talk about interpersonal problems. Getting along with each other is a balancing act of give and take.
“Rioting is a childish way of trying to be a man, but it takes time to rise out of the hell of hatred and frustration and accept that to be a man you don’t have to riot.”–Abraham Maslow
The world is plagued with an abundance of good and bad things along with good and bad people. This bounty can cause a lot of frustration and psychological pain. Sometimes all a person can do is let out a scream out of frustration, then get on with living the best one can.