A couple of weeks ago, my Giants ended the regular season with a loss to arch-rival Dodgers. It was a bitter-sweet day for coach Bruce Bochy because it was also his last game of his two-and-a-half-decades long baseball career. Sports pundits have been kept busy giving him kudos and the Giants’ front office has certainly been kept busy evaluating Bochy’s performance. There will surely be plenty of evaluation of prospective replacements for the job.
All the reminiscing and projecting going on about the old coach and possible new talent triggered me to do some self-evaluation. How have I performed as the head coach of my life? Where did I slip up? When did I shine? How should I improve my self-coaching skills?
In much the same way that coach Bochy evaluated his players and the Giants’ managerial staff used every bit of information and each piece of data to form accurate evaluations, I can try to be objective about how I am living my own life.
Have I neglected to look at myself in the mirror lately to look into the reflection of my eyes and ask myself to be honest about my motivations, shortcomings, and strengths? Do some of my judgements about my adversaries apply somehow to me, too? Would the way I lived this year qualify me for the World Series of life or would I not even make it to the play-offs just as Bochy’s last season with the Giants ended before the post season?
While feelings are important considerations, our emotions are dangerous because they are not readily susceptible to rational evaluation. It’s a good idea to figure in one’s emotional attachments to concepts and beliefs. Have the beliefs actually hindered or helped us get along better with ourselves and with others; or have they made us more stubborn and dogmatic?
Of course it’s wise not to over-evaluate. Too much second-guessing leads to stagnation. Sometimes, it’s good to take a leap of faith. On the other hand, has impulsivity overruled careful evaluation? Honest self-evaluation can help determine how balanced we are in decision making.
It’s good to do periodic, compassionate self-evaluations from time to time. We don’t have to wait until the end of the season or the career to do them.
The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes country music star Jay DeMarcus (Rascal Flatts). “So many people in this world get up every day and go to their nine-to-five job they hate for 12 months a year for 30 years. I kind of do a self-check and evaluation to realize I’m very blessed and grateful to be where I am.”