During our happiest moments we might have feelings of gratitude about completion, wholeness, and union. When our actions are in agreement with our values, we are aligned.
Most of us only fully realize this idyllic state of mind occasionally, not always. A few rare souls experience this harmonious, peaceful state of mind most of the time. To be in alignment is not a euphoric peak moment of emotion. It’s more akin to an upbeat ambient state of mind. I like to compare it to driving a well-tuned car on a well designed highway during a beautiful afternoon in the countryside. A journey like this is a happy, satisfying pleasure.
The pleasant journey is not automatic, it still requires mindful attention to the roadside to be alert for potential hazards and to be respectful of other drivers. Yet, the mechanically sound car and the well-constructed highway work together to enable the pleasant trip from point A to point B.
Being in alignment allows us to feel contentment, enables happiness, and welcomes joy. We accept our warts, wrinkles, and attributes. This manifests as an expansive, compassionate love that we emanate outwards from within. We feel so secure about ourselves that other people can detect it. This might be described as subtle, egoless charisma.
Others feel relaxed and safe in our presence. There is a symbiosis we have with our loved ones that shows up as appreciation and mutual support. We help each other to reach our highest potential as well-rounded, balanced human beings. We are happy for their success and they are happy for ours. When we are in alignment, this symbiosis is natural feature of our personalities.
This state of being suggests that our relationships are loving and mostly harmonious. Any disagreements, quarrels, and emotional tensions are negotiated and resolved for the highest mutual good. This is the stuff of quality togetherness times which become our fondest, happy memories.
If we feel out of alignment, we also notice a lack of the qualities and virtues mentioned above. We yearn for harmonious, loving relationships. We might feel disconnected or disengaged from the rest of our colleagues and the rest of the world. There seems to be something important missing from life. There is more struggle. It’s like driving a decrepit car down a pothole filled street in a bad neighborhood. The journey is not a happy Sunday drive in the countryside; it’s basically an escape from suffering.
When we’re out of alignment, we seek to find commonality with our acquaintances, colleagues, and loved ones. We want to open the lines of constructive communication with one another. If we become mindful, we exercise more respect, understanding, and compassion with each other. Being out of alignment calls for more focus inward in order to become more clear about what is desirable in our lives and relationships.
Being out of alignment often means misalignment of what we do in relationship to our personal values. If we’re untrue to ourselves, we’re letting others decide our direction and what they think we should be doing and how we should be living our lives. During our thoughtful moments we can bring ourselves back to focus on who we truly are and how we can maximize what brings us the most fulfillment. The idea is to live life in alignment with our highest potential and goodness. We can be well-maintained “vehicles” for our journeys through life.
The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes writer and speaker, Brian Tracy. “Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.”