If we’re so fortunate to have attained a reasonable level of happiness and success, it is probable that we will be challenged by some people who are envious or feel threatened by us. We worked our rear-ends off to get where we are; however, certain individuals wish to bring us down a notch and take what we have.

At such times we find ourselves in unpleasant, unexpected competition with new-found adversaries. In order to maintain our well-being and what we’ve earned we have to respond with protective counter-measures.

Such external factors can leave us doubting our capabilities and weigh us down with doubts about whether or not the struggle is worth continuing. This is especially true if the rivalry continues for a long time. We may be tempted to give up after seemingly vain struggle. Yet, there is still a bit of fight left and we marshal the strength to carry on. We still stand up to defend our territory and refuse to surrender just to keep our friends and family happy.

We’ve all been criticized by family and friends about some of our choices in life. Perhaps we stayed in an unfulfilling job or a parent questioned our sexuality and our personal relationships. We wish they’d keep their noses out of our business and let us live our lives as we see fit.

We remember that there will always be opposition to us and our points of view. It’s impossible to make everybody satisfied with us. During such times we finally set up personal boundaries and proclaim our independence in thought and deed. We determinedly hold our ground.

Too often, challenges catch us off-guard so we may feel inadequate for confrontation. We must defend ourselves even though we don’t have all of our defenses at the ready. If we wish to avoid surprise attacks, we should take a page from the U.S. Defense Department: Determine, in advance, potential rivals, adversaries, risks, and threats. Once we have a reasonable picture of these, we will have a worst-case plan to formulate, if needed. Then we can move ahead and carry out our plans.

More insidious challenges to our success are our own low self-confidence and lack of faith in ourselves. We block our own paths when we allow our personal doubts hijack our journey. It’s important to build up our reserves of knowledge and skills in order to reinforce our self-confidence.

To avoid our self-sabotage we have to muster up persistence and courage. We rediscover that we have what it takes to follow through to confront people who oppose and threaten us.

On the other hand there are those very rare instances when we have done everything possible and honestly put in our very best effort but we realize the struggle was not worthwhile. There comes the time to be frank with ourselves and let go. This is not a matter of giving up on life. It’s a temporary retreat we take so that we can recoup our determination and strength to fight another day.

In the grand scheme of life, we all experience challenges. Family members and friends suffer illness. We don’t always get the promotion or dream job. We encounter conflicts throughout our lives. When push comes to shove it all comes down to the necessity to strengthen our abilities to weather the ups and downs of life. We form and maintain a realistically positive attitude. This is how we build resilience.

The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes author and philosopher, Andrew J. Bernstein. “The truth is that stress doesn’t come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about these circumstances.”Β 

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7 Responses to Challenged

  1. Eva Hnizdo says:

    And stress and hardship unless extreme makes us appreciate the non stressful good times when they come. .

  2. Yernasia Quorelios says:

    πŸ’œ My Experience is somewhat different; because I CHOSE!!! to Listen to The Universal Nudges about Clearing The Decks of My Settled Success for My Forthcoming Soulful Experiences which is Definitely TOUGH!!!…yet Well Worth It; for sure I Won’t Die Wondering “What if… πŸ€” ?” because I Have Evolved to a 5DState in a 3DEnvironment and it’s ALL Soulful Experience NOW!!! sure Things Still Piss Me Off and I Get OutRaged at Evil Deeds; if there is I AM Able to do SomeThing about that I Perceive To Be Evil I Take My Linear Time to CHOOSE!!! whether to Take Action because I May Be Interfering with a Natural Process that is Really None of My Business EveryOne…to put it in Perspective; it’s like trying to break up a Sibling FIGHT!!!…any of Us with Half a Brain Cell Knows They WILL!!! Unite Turn on The Wannabe PeaceMaker; then return to Their FIGHT!!! Classic ‘Walk In The Others Shoes Before Judging Them’, RANT OVER!!! for Now…




    • swabby429 says:

      I understand your POV.

      • Yernasia Quorelios says:

        πŸ’œ As Do I YOUR!!! “POV” My Brother, My Friend; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that Respectful Diversity, DisAgreement and Debate ARE The Keys to 3DHarmony and, Obviously, YOU!!! Get The Whole Diverse Experience THING!!! so a Massive Thank YOU!!! to YOU!!! from Us ALL to YOU!!! and YOURS!!!


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  4. Problems regularly pop up from out of the blue. That’s the normal pattern of things. For sure, Planet Earth isn’t a utopia.

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