As we encounter situations that require decisions or that impact our lives we must weigh our options. Regarding those times when we must speak out and state our views, it is best to contemplate and reflect. Hasty, impulsive decisions and speech can get us into trouble. Even if the decision was the right one or we did not encounter discord, the results might not have the feeling of totality nor closure if made in haste or on a whim.

More often, our self-reflections are about past events. Done mindfully and carefully, this allows us the opportunity to learn from our errors and to figure out how to improve our responses in the future. Any journey into skillful living will start with self-reflection. If honest self-examination does not happen, it’s nearly impossible to learn and grow in life.

When contemplating one’s life and reflecting upon various options and scenarios, it’s important to not get stuck in that mode. Too much self-reflection can cause as much trouble as taking no time for self-examination. Part of the process is determining the middle way and when to take decisive action. Then following through.

When we habitually engage in life with mindfulness and self-reflection our lives more closely match our values. It’s not only about what we do; it’s how we set out to do what we do. Our decisions and our speech then have a solid foundation to build upon. This is what is meant by integrity.

As we take moments of introspection and self-examination we can more easily determine how much of ourselves we can afford to give away and how much we must reserve for ourselves.

Once we take decisive, effective action it is also helpful to perform an internal debriefing consisting of quiet reflection about the impact of our action or speech in order to determine how we can improve with even better effective action and speech.

This is not to be confused with having second thoughts nor self-recrimination. What is done and said remains done and said with solid confidence.

When we mindfully engage in inner reflection we intend to understand ourselves in relationship to others. Then, when we engage ourselves in outside activity we are better able to do so with a better grasp of reality integrated with our knowledge and wisdom. This is a good way to live up to our responsibilities and have a more fulfilling life.

The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes 18th century activist, philosopher, political theorist, and revolutionary, Thomas Paine. “The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection.” Β 

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5 Responses to Self-Reflection

  1. Yernasia Quorelios says:

    πŸ’œ Reason, Season, LifeTime ALL; in Two Words Experiment and Experience, that is ALL EveryOne, very good, carry on


  2. Nova says:

    To know yourself so you can understand others 🌸 Excellent post.

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