Listening To Others

One of the most wise recommendations is, that it behooves us to listen to others. Doing so is one of the most basic ways to connect to other people. Sincerely paying attention and comprehending other people’s communication might be the most important gift we give to others and to ourselves. This advice is very important and profound yet this advice is frequently overlooked and ignored.Β 

To genuinely listen to others demonstrates empathy and openness to fresh ideas. It displays the desire to be with another person in mind and spirit. This is an attractive, healthy manner with which to relate to others and to ourselves.

“It takes two to speak the truth: one to speak, and another to hear.”–Henry David Thoreau

We love the sound of our own words, whether spoken aloud or within our internal dialogue. We are familiar with our own point of view and derive a certain amount of smug satisfaction when communicating a message to someone else. However, in the overall scheme of things, it is not always valuable to listen to one’s own echo-chamber. To dismiss other people’s efforts to communicate generates general contempt from others. When in the company of another person the attention we generously pay to ourselves would be more wisely paid to the other person.

The presence of the wall constructed out of inattention and self-absorption is revealed during our listening phase of conversation when we utter, “As I was saying…” or worse, “What?” Such an attitude invalidates the integrity of the speaker and the listener. Plus, it is outright rudeness. This is especially unwise when the other person is expressing a message that contradicts our own opinion.

To speak and only listen to oneself rarely turns out well for the speaker and the listener. We do not gain any new knowledge nor wisdom if we only hear our own thoughts. The words of others might contain nuggets of wisdom that we find useful if only we could hear them. To only pay attention to oneself is a character flaw. When I discover I am guilty of doing this, I immediately feel a blush wash over my face.

The pompous speaker consciously or subconsciously seeks an adoring audience and copious amounts of applause and flattery. When we only listen to our own thoughts and speech, the acquisition of knowledge and wisdom is greatly hindered. When our aim is to hear “Bravo!” from our listeners, our spirit shrinks a little.

Contrary to many of today’s pop culture influencers’ messages, we are not always our best advisors and personal coaches. Quite often, wake-up calls come from the lips of our friends and sometimes even from our adversaries.

The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes 20th century sportsman, journalist, novelist and short-story writer, Ernest Hemingway. “I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” Β 

About swabby429

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9 Responses to Listening To Others

  1. Yernasia Quorelios says:

    πŸ’œ STIGMA!!! EveryOne; when a Person Refuses to Admit, Acknowledge and Address Their MMHI (Multiple Mental Health Issues) They DON’T!!! Actively “Listen” and Even Worse, They Get Pissed Off and Deny what They Said when Actively “Listened” To…so HOWZAT!!! for a MindFuck; or Better as a Lesson in Being Genuine, Authentic and Honest with OurSelves and Others,


    • swabby429 says:

      Thanks for the link. I haven’t read anything by Dr. Berne in ages.

      • Yernasia Quorelios says:

        πŸ’œ YOU!!! ARE Most Welcome SupaSouBro; it’s a Pleasure to Share and Serve, Stay Strong and Serene


  2. “…However, in the overall scheme of things, it is not always valuable to listen to one’s own echo-chamber. To dismiss other people’s efforts to communicate generates general contempt from others…” Love that. Have witnessed it on more than one occasion even in the best of persons!!!

  3. So true! You are a beautiful spirit!πŸ’ž

  4. I’m convinced that listening is the most underrated and undervalued skill today. We do not learn how to do it and I believe that society is much poorer for this.

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