The Ambivert Geek?

Before I settled upon the name “bluejayblog” in 2011 I had considered naming the blog “The Ambivert Geek?”. The reasoning behind the name was that I’m neither an extrovert nor an introvert so ambivert is a good fit. Also, I can be quite geeky about a raft of subjects from world history to ethics and nearly everything in between. To make sure I wasn’t stepping on any Internet toes, I discovered that the name “The Ambivert Geek” was already taken by a few other bloggers and appeared on Twitter as well. I settled on the name “bluejayblog” because it encompasses how I feel about things and me, in general. Have a gander at the “About” page for the explanation. The blue jay name was also present on the Web, but it was used by someone who was a Toronto Blue Jays baseball club fan. I didn’t worry about that because my team is the San Francisco Giants–so there’s that.

One trait about us ambiverts is that we easily adapt to context and situations. That is we intuitively understand when to evaluate before acting and when to impulsively act; when to speak our minds and when to listen; when to hold back and when to retaliate. A defining trait is that we strongly display both introverted and extroverted behavior in almost equal measure. For instance, I feel very comfortable doing solitary meditation for a day or two but if pushed beyond that, I yearn to participate in a meditation retreat among dozens of other meditators. Both situations feel comfortable and compatible.

We ambiverts feel hypersensitive like many introverts do and we also feel a domineering urge to be the life of the party for awhile. The introverted part of me is very comfortable with the disk jockey mass media part of me. Although I require some time to recharge my “inner batteries”, a few hours alone instead of a few days will suffice. You might say that I love to be the center of attention for awhile, but then feel very satisfied with retreating to the edges in order to observe and mingle with other individuals attending the party. Again, it’s about 50/50 regarding liking and disliking partying.

Taking the meditation scenario as an example of ambiversion we can also apply it to geekdom. I love to investigate various meditation-based belief systems, religions, philosophies, and their various texts and holy books. There’s enough material for more than a lifetime of geekhood. I mention this particular topic because it is the one I’m most geeky or passionate about. I mention the geek portion today because today is “Embrace Your Geekness Day”. Unofficial holidays are also an interest, so why not celebrate this one? How might an ambivert celebrate today’s holiday? We might go out to party with cohorts and wish we’d stay at home or if we stay at home we might wish we’d have gone out with our pals. We might feel ambivalent about either choice. When we overpower the ambivalence, we go ahead and party, then return home feeling energized and glad about our choice.

I like to meet new possible friends. Small talk can feel quite pleasurable as an icebreaker. Once acquainted, there is nothing more satisfying than to dive into a deep subject and converse one on one with a new friend. This situation happened at a friend’s birthday party this past weekend. A fellow party goer named Gregory introduced himself. I’m very glad to have met him as we soon connected on philosophical and intellectual levels.

There is one nagging aspect about my experience as an ambivert, that is I feel like I could belong anywhere in nearly any situation, yet I don’t quite fit in anywhere. I’m capable of behaving in a very outgoing manner, yet there are some situations where I can feel painfully shy. In the end, the extroverted share attracts more acquaintances while the introverted portion seals the friendship bonds with deep, personal interactions. Sometimes I feel like a nut, sometimes I don’t.

The geek portion of being an ambivert geek comes through when I write about such matters on this blog.


The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes contemporary fine and commercial artist, Takashi Murakami. “When I was little, I guess I was just an ordinary kid. But then things changed when I was in junior high. You know, kids that become geeks become one because of something. Like, they aren’t good at sports, or girls don’t like them. I, too, for some reason, got into things like science fiction and, well, especially science fiction as an escape.”

About swabby429

An eclectic guy who likes to observe the world around him and comment about those observations.
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4 Responses to The Ambivert Geek?

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