Friendship Is Sacred

“One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives.”–Euripides

The amount of cringe-worthy stuff my true blue friends know about me makes me shudder. This is also true about the things I know about them. We keep these issues away from public knowledge out of mutual trust. True blue friends or BFFs can sense each others’ malarky, call each other out on it, and have a good laugh afterwards. I can count the number of my true blue friends on the fingers of one hand, and that’s OK. Like gold, rarity helps make such friends precious.

I’ve often wondered why society doesn’t have a special holiday for friends as we do for Mothers’ Day and Fathers’ Day. After all, for great numbers of people, especially those who were raised in dysfunctional families, friends play an important role in personal development and well-being. BFFs are proof that families of choice can be more profound and loving than families of birth. To have a special official holiday would be a great tribute to the people we have psychologically adopted as friends.

Good friends become extensions of each other’s worlds. Life is lived and interpreted within expanded paradigms and points of view. There are the shared experiences and inside jokes. These aspects help make true friendship sacred. There is one other ingredient that evolves spontaneously–love. The love of a good friend exceeds the love of a lover (which can be conditional).

“It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.”–Ralph Waldo Emerson

In addition to the sober frankness of authentic friends are the times we can let our hair down with each other and not worry about being judged. Good friends appreciate our corny jokes and puns. They laugh even as they roll their eyes. The value of this is underestimated. One of my former room mates was a master punster. He never failed to make me laugh even when I wanted to groan. I wish I could pun as cleverly as he could.

There are times in everybody’s lives when our inner fire dims to an ember. When we least expect it, an encounter with another human is the bellows that breaths fresh air onto that spark and causes it to burst forth into a healthy flame. It goes without saying that we feel gratitude for folks who rekindle our inner fire.

Naturally, we all go through troublesome, sad events. If we are fortunate to have a good friend, she or he will be with us in respectful silence and share in our despair. Such a friend accepts the uniqueness of our suffering during our existential crises. They tolerate the mystery of our griefs and do not barge in with unsolicited advise and trite truisms. Just having such a friend nearby eases the burden because of their caring attitude. A hug from such a friend brings a glimmer of hope.

Authentic friendship dilutes life’s evils and fortifies life’s goodness. To have at least one good friend is to have an oasis in the desert of civilization. To discover and keep one good friend in a lifetime is a treasure greater than gold. Such a friendship is not only auspicious, it is a sacred blessing.

Namaste


The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes activist, author, Nobel laureate, and Holocaust survivor, Elie Wiesel. “Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.”

About swabby429

An eclectic guy who likes to observe the world around him and comment about those observations.
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5 Responses to Friendship Is Sacred

  1. Yernasia Quorelios says:

    πŸ’Ž – Diamond Hard – πŸ’Ž

    πŸ’Ž True “Friendship” is Calling Them Out on Behaviour that YOU!!! THINK!!! is Awry and “UnFriendly” EveryOne; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that YOUR!!! “Friendships” May Enter a State of Dormancy…ergo, Let Them Go; then Continue EXISTING, EXPERIMENTING AND EXPERIENCING

    πŸ’Ž – Diamond Hard – πŸ’Ž

    …πŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’Ž…

  2. Beautifully said ❀️

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