Now that we’re past the Christmas rush, we are better able to pause and take a personal inventory of our lives. How did we live our lives during the past twelve months? Many people, me included, like to use the last few days of December to reexamine our priorities.
Our inner desires and plans call us in one direction; however, in real life, we were compelled to act in another direction. We might want to adjust our interpersonal relationships, daily habits, living arrangements, and career goals so as to integrate more balance in our lives.
Much to our chagrin, we encounter resistance and tension from ourselves and others in the process. It’s natural that conflict will arise as we try to better align our inner intent and outer, real-world action. That’s just what happens when we fight the mental gyroscope of our daily autopilot. Inertial forces tend to adjust us back to the default settings.
In some cases, we become so out of balance that our health gets pushed out of whack. We sense the need for profound inner and outer healing. We instinctively understand that we need to implement better balance and moderation in our lives. It is during the latter part of the year that we are better able to find time to figure out what we need to do to heal create harmony between intent and action. Following through will enhance the healing we crave.
Generally speaking, our lives are not usually undergoing dire circumstances. We feel like something is slightly out of kilter and that life could flow a bit better. We’re tempted to ignore the nagging voice from within that says something isn’t quite right. If we continue to ignore that voice, it will find ways to better assert itself. Finally, we pay closer attention and investigate ways to adjust our habits and priorities. We decide to align our activities more in line with our vision.
It is in this mental space where New Year’s resolutions appear. Although resolution lists have a poor reputation, there is something we can learn from them. While comfortably seated, jot a short list of improvements you’ve been avoiding. Next, calmly ponder the list and honestly determine the highest priority item on it. Once you understand what it is and why it’s important, then you’ll be able to mindfully focus upon it.
After you’re focused you’ll know or know to investigate what needs to be done to remedy the situation. This is a personal scenario. You will decide on the course of action you will realistically take. The key word here is “will”.
Now is when we remain calm and focused while asking ourselves the important questions–perhaps some constructive brainstorming is called for as we consider all the probable perspectives. We use focus to zero in on the best solutions. If you have a life partner or quality friend, you may wish to discuss your concerns with them. They will have a different point of view that will help you see the overall, big picture better. Working together, your ally can at least provide added support to your energies.
All things considered, any decisions and actions are basically up to you. One can blend, combine, mix, or reject advice as necessary–including the ones outlined here. The process of personal discovery includes reaching out and reaching within. This is an ongoing process that includes trial and error. The search for balance is a reflection of higher learning. Listening patiently and following one’s inner voice will help bring about the desired outcome.
The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes poet and writer, Senora Roy. “Happy thoughts or wishful thinking won’t cut it. Rather, the trick is to replace negative thoughts with more balanced thoughts.”