To find a trustworthy, true-blue friend is like a finding treasure in a second-hand thrift store. We encounter many acquaintances, friends of convenience, and fair-weather friends throughout our lives. Yet discovering those precious people who become our closest friends is uncommon. Perhaps it is their rarity that makes them so valuable.
I wrote about my late, good friend Doug yesterday. After posting it to the blog, I reminisced about other friends who made a world of difference in my world. They were people who were collaborative, creative, honest, loyal, and had their own particular senses of humor. There was a deep sense of caring and love in the relationships–we always had each others’ backs. The friendship meant that we were together through thick and thin, good times and hard times. Camaraderie being the core value in such relationships.
Regarding many of the friends, we get together at one of our homes to share stories, reminisce, laugh, watch a game on TV, or just hang out as a group. The spirit is happy and we feel glad to be together. Sometimes we get together to celebrate someone’s birthday, one of the holidays, or somebody achieving a goal. These often happen on weekends, but not exclusively so. The relaxed atmosphere and quality of the time make it easy for everyone to enjoy themselves.
Other friends were certain colleagues at work or play. Everyone collectively strove towards a common goal. Good teamwork includes a fair amount of friendship in the mix. Whether they are coworkers or gym buddies, the spontaneous creativity is one of the ingredients in these types of friends groups. With everyone more or less on the same page, much can be accomplished. The wins are evenly celebrated and the losses evenly shared.
“He who hath many friends hath none.”–Aristotle
Those of us who are more introvertly inclined still value friends. We tend to link with people of similar persuasion. We like to go it alone much of the time, however we feel happy partnering with somebody with whom there is mutual understanding of each other’s deeper qualities. The most treasured friend is joyful about one another’s victories and silently offers support during times of bereavement, confusion, and despair. That friend is present without unsolicited advice, not trying to “cure”. Such a friend is simply there out of caring and concern. While friendship during trying times is precious, one must remember to be present in the happy times, as well. True friendship is a benevolent relationship that all around enhances life.
A good friendship is an acquaintanceship that has blossomed. It contains mutual confidence, forgiving, sharing, and quiet understanding. It is less about perfection but takes basic human weakenesses and strengths, into compassionate account. Friendship is perhaps the finest of all human relationships.
The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes Oscar Wilde. “Laughter is not at all a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is far the best ending for one.”