Genuine Care

A former colleague Amy freely admits to being naïve regarding people’s intentions. One afternoon, Amy phoned to request a favor. She needed to replace her car with a newer, more dependable, and economical model. Amy excitedly mentioned that the woman at the dealership wanted to be her friend–the salesperson had “discovered” the perfect car for Amy’s needs because “friends really care”.

I then accompanied Amy in her old car to the dealership. We were enthusiastically greeted by Amy’s new “friend” the salesperson. Almost immediately, we were shown the car in question–a Chevy Aveo. It was the right size and color for Amy. I was suspicious because I knew that Avios had been recalled a few times to correct some mechanical faults. Also, the model had been criticized in the automotive press a few years prior. Despite my concerns, Amy still wanted to take the car for a test drive.

During the road test, I requested to have the radio switched off because I wanted to listen for body integrity faults, suspension trouble, and engine noise. The salesperson reluctantly turned the radio off. She shouldn’t have worried, the car sounded OK. Amy drove the Aveo back to the dealership and decided to purchase the little car. I accompanied Amy to the sales manager’s office for the closing. The price quote was $4,000 higher than the Kelly Blue Book valuation for the same car in perfect condition.

Amy was unwilling to pay such an exhorbitant price; and I was beside myself with disgust. We eventually managed to haggle the final price to one that was below the Blue Book value of the car. I then accompanied Amy to her bank for a car loan–which went off without a hitch. Amy surrendered her old car then took possession of the Aveo. Although I was less than satisfied with Amy’s car choice, she was over the Moon with joy. Amy left convinced that the salesperson was a good friend because the car met Amy’s requirements.

Eventually, following Amy’s many failed attempts to socialize with the salesperson, Amy realized that the so-called friendship was merely a sales tactic used to expedite the successful sale. The realization disappointed Amy, but she eventually chaulked it up to experience. Amy is now somewhat more discerning regarding potential friendships.

The takeaway for Amy, is the reminder to carefully choose people who not only make us happy, and make us laugh, but to help us when we are in need. Such people genuinely care about us. These are the folks worth keeping in our lives. Our other acquaintances are simply passing through. Yes, this is basic life wisdom, but it’s easy to forget it when our emotions flood over our logic. Keeping a level head allows us to remain centered and discerning about the nature of our friendships. It’s good to know which of our friends genuinely care versus fair-weather friends.

When all is said and done, caring is a life skill that can be learned and practiced by everyone. It can be worked into our life plans to meet individual and pervasive social necessities. When caring is genuine, it reveals no small amount of courage.


The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes singer-songwriter, Brigitte Nicole. “Some people’s weakness is that they care too much; it is also their strength.”

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An eclectic guy who likes to observe the world around him and comment about those observations.
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