Most of my close friends cultivate a real world perspective, there’s a healthy measure of cynicism, a certain amount of skepticism, a dash of insecurity, and occasional bouts of restlessness. These are balanced with a measure of confidence, and surprising patience and restraint. Insofar as we reflect the attributes and personality aspects of the people we are closest to, I suppose some of these ingredients are in my make-up as well.

We seem to be people who get wrapped up in passionate missions or projects. We’re stubborn to a helpful degree, that is once we have our minds set on a concept, there is no stopping us from at least attempting to take action. We also tend to utilize the intellect in order to work through and accomplish our plans.

Mixed in with these aspects is a fair amount of impulsiveness. Once something captures our attention, we find ourselves abandoning rational planning and diving right into the bright, shiny object. We understand that doing so might be unwise, yet we feel compelled anyway. Being impulsive isn’t our dominant trait, yet once it’s triggered, there’s no stopping us. For the most part, this restlessness is harmless. Oftentimes, this mental energy brings us satisfying results.

Unfortunately, sometimes this restlessness blocks our mindfulness. We’re overflowing with energy and desire but are blocked from effectively and thoughtfully channeling the release of this energy. The frustration builds so we want to do something, maybe anything to satisfy our need for action. Perhaps it is a matter of poor timing, lack of cooperation of a helper, or the lack of proper resources. Yet we barge ahead anyway.

Such situations often lead to disappointment. After these scenarios have played themselves out enough times, we learned to be on the lookout for those situations when emotions might result in impulsive, irrational decisions. Yet, despite our better intentions, sometimes restlessness scatters our thoughts. This results in waffling and frequent mind-changing. The confusion is frustrating to ourselves and the people around us.

When we finally gather our wits, we realize that all we need to do is to slow down and take a break. Although we want to be more involved in everything, we cannot succeed at anything because we’ve been too scattered. We take a break from our efforts for a day or so in order to ground ourselves again. The time-out allows us to rationally sort out our priorities and concentrate on only the most important, relevant of them.

It’s helpful to understand that everyone has times when we’re impatient and reckless. It takes time and experience in order to develop maturity and patience. As we seek to enhance our independence and effectiveness, we will probably make more mistakes. Restlessness is a normal part of being human. As in all areas of life, using a mindful approach about our restlessness can enhance our lives.

The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes former U.S. Vice-President, Hubert H. Humphrey. “If there is dissatisfaction with the status quo, good. If there is ferment, so much the better. If there is restlessness, I am pleased. Then let there be ideas, and hard thought, and hard work. If man feels small, let man make himself bigger.”

About swabby429

An eclectic guy who likes to observe the world around him and comment about those observations.
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