There’s a vintage, laid-back, mellow country song that sometimes appears as an earworm in my head. A fragment of that song started to mentally loop while I prepared coffee this morning.
“…I don’t guide my age on raisin kicks.
But I’m raisin hell just like I did.
I’ve got a lot of crazy friends,
And they forgive me of my sins.
Can’t take it with you when you’re gone.
But I want enough to get there on.
And I aint ever growin o-o-old.
So, I keep on rollin with the flow.
(keep on rollin with the flow)….”
–“Rollin’ With The Flow” by Charlie Rich (excerpt)
Songwriter: Jerry Hayes © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Charlie Rich was the ideal singer for this tune because of his melodious voice and intuitive delivery style. Whenever I hear it, the song feels relatable. I never feel annoyed when it manifests as an earworm.
Although I’m retired from the world of employment, I still find myself getting caught up in the fast pace of modern life and briefly lose direction. When I notice this is happening, I stop to take a few deep breaths and pay closer attention to what’s going on in and around me.
Like many people, my life and work has come about through conscious planning, strategizing, perceverance, and a generous amount of serundipity. When things don’t go as anticipated, I let go and roll with the punches or go with the flow. The results have largely been benficial; and I’ve felt reasonably happy.
In my opinion, when I’ve placed a great deal of emphasis upon trying to figure out the meaning of life and injecting my beliefs into explanations of events, I feel somehow blocked and closed off from reality. I miss a lot of what is going on right in front of my eyes and ears. Instead of going with the flow, I close off my mind to the person or scenario and miss out to what I should pay closer attention. This seems to be the ego vying for the limelight. Meanwhile, being mindful is largely mentally rolling with the flow and becoming more involved, while paying attention and disengaging the ego.
These days, I’m not worried about many things. I feel grateful to be alive where I am and able to do what I can. I’m less resistant to change and am more able to experience awe and wonder again. I seem to be more accepting about living in this time period rather than too much nostalgia for a warm, fuzzy past or utopian dreams of the future. However when either of them show up, I also enjoy indulging them for awhile. Such is the substance of normal living.
Sometime during my sophomore year of college, I realized that I didn’t want to pigeonhole or trap myself in some sort of box. My personality and interests are quite fluid. Although I understood the necessity of study and focus, I also knew that life presents unforeseeable twists and turns. So despite making careful plans for the future, sometimes it’s important to catch a fleeting opportunity. If one fails to do so, such an opportunity will never present itself again.
Life is not static; it’s dynamic. Our lives can be altered by events out of our control at any time. Learning to cope with the unknowable involves a careful amount of going with the flow. This is not to say we should just live passive lives. It’s just that an active personality can also choose to include a certain amount of passivity into her/his life. Healthy living includes an intelligent measure of letting go. Anyway, that’s just my opinion so I’m rolling with it.
The Blue Jay of Happiness quotes the author, Leland Lewis. “The Man of Knowledge will go with the flow, but the Sage knows where and when to stop.”